4 Golden Rules of Dating in your 50s


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Article by Karen Mooney

 
So the kids have grown up and you’ve just returned to the dating scene after being married for years. But dating is a whole different ball game now you’re in your fifties. Well don’t be disheartened just follow my four Golden Rules and make that good first impression, otherwise there will never be a second date.

You’d be surprised how easily we can blow it, by saying, wearing or doing the wrong thing.

Where to meet

Choose a mutually convenient venue, lunchtime is good and a snack is better than a large meal – offer to go dutch. Don’t go somewhere too noisy – the cinema and theater are big no no’s for a first date as the whole idea is that you talk to each other, not sit in silence.

What to wear


Something you feel comfortable in is a must! Nothing too tight or revealing and leggings are a definite turn off. Avoid the extremes of your wardrobe business suits are not right unless you have just come from the office. A splash of colour is good – wearing black only can make you look dull.

dating coupleWhat to talk about


A good starting point is the other person. Ask them about their family, their work, interests and how they see themselves in the future. Although don’t make it sound like you are interrogating them! For a successful long term relationship similar goals and aspirations are a must – so how would they see their life in five years time? Always remember to be yourself – don’t try to be someone you are not. If you are nervous be honest and say you’re nervous. Don’t talk endlessly about your ex – believe it or not this is one of the most common reasons for not getting a second date! Don’t talk about politics or religion. Try to find some common ground and the conversation should flow.

How to behave


In my 21 years of matchmaking I am yet to find a man who isn’t attracted by a smile. So smile and enjoy your date! Turn off your mobile phone unless you are genuinely expecting an important phone call and for goodness sake don’t text! Definitely don’t try to pin your date down to a second date before the first date has ended. And don’t act as though you are desperate – this is a big turn off.

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Karen-Mooney

Karen founded the Sara Eden Introductions dating company in 1988 and, as managing director, has watched it grow for 16 years. Pairing off single professionals, Sara Eden has resulted in more than 1,500 marriages since its conception. www.sara-eden.co.uk

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  1. Mazda

    April 13, 2012

    Seems each article about dating over 50 starts with “you’ve been married” or “the kids are grown” – would like to see an article that talks about the person in their 50’s that is single, didn’t get the opportunity to marry or have children. I often feel like such a failure after reading the articles because I didn’t marry or have kids and didn’t climb the corporate ladder. Would be great to meet someone that would love me for me and not what they expect me to be.

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