From twitter to marmite. A former tweeter shares her twitter journey from love to hate , and why bullying meant she had to tweet her last tweet:
Yes I confess, I have been having an affair with twitter for the past three years! I didn’t need to take out a Super Injunction as my other half is also a keen Twitterer although friends have always though me a bit mad or strange so maybe I have had to keep it a bit of a guilty secret!
How my affair started seems to be in todays terms Really Trendy as we clearly met on the internet! No dressing up in smart clothes or slapping on layers of makeup to impress, no nervous pre dinner drinks oh no….this affair went straight from first meeting to bed!! Now some may say that was rather hasty and I do have to admit that it was a threesome! Blushes…well a woman my age needs all the pleasure she can grab!!
Maybe at this point I should confess that the third person in this relationship was in fact my lap top.My trusted friend, who I actually tell all my secrets to and knows me better than anyone else I know and the only reason I was in bed was because I had the most terrible cold! So no hot bed of lust, well I did have a temperature does that count?
Anyway, I nervously typed in Twitter into Google. The hardest part of opening an account was deciding on my new identity! What should I call myself? Should I be undercover for fear of internet stalkers so what did I end up doing? Using my real name!! Now some may say that was a silly thing to do but to be honest with you my memory would be useless at making someone up so I thought I better stick to someone I know well and that person was ME……
Twitter opened up a whole new world of daily updates of my life..the pain of a horrible root canal filling at the dentist was shared with hundreds of people, a rant about news events a question about any topic you can think of was posted and very quickly answered by someone in a different country! It was and is amazing! A wonderfully surreal place where people from all age groups genders colours backgrounds and nationalities all mix together in a pot of bubbling opinions that gets stirred up by big news stories to boiling point then back down to simmer then on to something else!
Forming friendships and strong bonds on twitter
Where else can so many thousands of people mix together form friendships and incredibly strong bonds with people you may never ever meet in real life. Twitter is a place of friendship, love ,true genuine caring on a level so deep. I believe the strength lies in the fact its Words…the profound things we say to each other every day have such a huge effect on us all. A cheery Wave from Somerset and big hugs sent over the internet actually means a huge amount to someone having a really bad day. To be able to convey to someone you have never met in 140 characters where they cant see your facial expression or hear the tone of your voice is very hard and unfortunately and inevitably misunderstandings occur a lot….that is the downside to Twitter.
My wonderfully carefree affair with Twitter lasted three whole wonderful years. My followers rose to the heady heights of 1,760, my tweets sent were in the thousands! Life was perfect, fun and funny until one fateful morning……..
I love to scan the newspapers on line with my early morning cuppa and this particular morning a local story in Devon caught my eye. Now I know I was not adverse to posting comments about stories and events that I really felt strongly about and trust me this one really would make anyones blood boil! So hurriedly I logged into Twitter and made my opinion known! Sadly the outcome was horrible and unfortunately ended my long love affair with Twitter.
Bullying made me stop tweeting
As with all large groups of people together in that mixing pot you will always get a few bad apples that side together form groups and turn into something I cannot stand and thats Bullies!
I was branded a racist a bigot and a bint!….Followers of each other seemed to gang together like a pack of wolves attacking, not even knowing what was originally said or reading through what I had said. To say I felt attacked on line would to some people feel really strange but trust me..be it a bully in a playground or work place environment the fear and sadness is exactly the same when confronted with Words spoken by almost strangers that prop port to be Friends…Those faceless people you have been chatting to suddenly become this ugly mob that makes you scared to turn your laptop on for fear of reprisals…..
As with the end of any relationship there were lots and lots of tears. What had been a happy carefree place now seemed to have a much darker side that innocent me just didn’t know existed.
I closed my account and waved goodbye to all those other people for fear that I could now not trust anyone. I had so many messages of support and love from so many people on Twitter that of course I know that they are not all the same but there was no going back.
So at the end of a relationship is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all….from this side I still feel hurt, sad, and a strange longing to bring back what I had..sadly it has gone forever!.