Article by Adele Theron.
Exercise: Take some time to think back on your life. How have you dealt with loss in the past? (Whether it was the loss of someone special or a beloved pet) ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————
What steps did you take that were healthy and healing? ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————–
What steps did you take, or not take, that hampered your recovery? ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————– ————————————————————————–
Healing doesn’t simply happen over time. Healing is an active process, and processing all the feelings and emotions associated with your divorce is essential to getting over it. Divorce acts like a cut and if you don’t dress the wound and work on healing it you will end up with a lot of scar tissue, which will leave a lasting imprint on your life. The real killer to healing is the complacency and resignation I have seen countless women sink into after their divorce. I have noticed that many people talk about their divorce and announce as quickly as they can … that … yes … it was difficult, but they were, “absolutely fine and glad to be rid of their ex.” They say things like, “I feel fine”, “I feel perfectly happy with my life”, “I am over that bastard”, “I never think of him” or, “no, I am not dating and I am better off on my own.”
All of these statements are a form of resignation. This is why most people have no idea how to heal. They handle the divorce as best they can, often intellectualizing and rationalizing that they are fine even when they are not. This often leads to a false sense of healing, which is on the surface and not really dealing with the healing at the source.
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65% of people divorced for a 3rd or 4th time said that they wished they had handled their divorces in a more ethical and graceful way, taking a more active role in their healing. They also said that they wished they had gotten to the root cause of the break-up so that they didn’t ruin their next relationship.
At some level, you may have some resignation about what healing could look like for you or some idea in your head that feeling different about your situation is not possible.
Ultimately, choosing to heal comes from a deep personal love for yourself and a commitment to life being better than it is right now. Follow these simple steps to confront any resignation you might have and hit it on the head for good.
The journey out of resignation
- STEP 1: Confront that you may be holding onto your suffering in some way.
- STEP 2: Become aware of the real impact of not healing from your divorce.
- STEP 3: Educate yourself on the naked divorce Healing Formula and what it takes to heal.
- STEP 4: Take focused action and concentrate on healing.
- STEP 5: Take decisions on a daily basis to heal until you reach a momentum which leads to breakthroughs in your healing.
Time does not heal wounds
The concept of needing time to heal is consequently so ingrained in our society, that challenging this notion is usually met with an extraordinary amount of resistance, and in some cases, even anger or dismissal. The thought of healing quickly feels fake, shallow or unbelievable and could be misconstrued as a trivialisation of the healing process. I really understand if you are thinking these thoughts.
In my experience in developing the naked divorce 21-day Healing Formula, time is actually a hindrance to healing, as over time the sense of urgency to take action dissipates. Rosemary Kennedy (a renowned author and wife of Joseph Kennedy and the mother of President John F. Kennedy) shared her thoughts on time…
“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But the wounds remain.”
So, if time doesn’t heal wounds, what does? Till next time, when I explain what you can do to heal your wounds… It’s all about the naked divorce Healing Formula…
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