Approaching a milestone birthday and coping with the end of a marriage at the same time is proving difficult for one reader. With her permission I am sharing the email she sent to me, hoping that other women can relate to her situation and offer some tips and support to deal with this difficult situation
“Hi, I need advice.
My husband of 20yrs has had an affair and has left our marriage.
He moved his mistress in and they live near me. I am not coping with this much younger woman seeing my teenage boys. I am tearful, anxious and depressed with the situation and am on medication. No doubt there are other women who are in similar situations. How do you cope with the feeling that somebody has taken your life from you. My husband has done this before and I forgave him, but it’s not in me to forgive again.
The ‘younger woman’ thing is a killer
I am in a rural area where I know everybody. My boys are still at school and do not want to move. I am too fragile to date but am incredibly lonely for male company. I am 49 and only work part time as I am a painter. My life is so confused . Where do I start?
I think the main issues centre around self esteem. That ‘younger woman’ thing is a killer.
If you could offer any guidance I would be so thankful.”