Fabafterfifty: Mid-life Matters

  1. Why are men happier in retirement than women?

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    Article by Fabafterfifty It’s official – men are happier in their retirement than women. A new study has explored all aspects of retirement and found that for men, the twilight years are amongst the best of their life. Men thoroughly enjoy getting their teeth into new hobbies and interests, and are happy to spend time chilling out at home. In contrast, women are more likely to spend their later years worrying about their lack of income, and feeling frustrated at the need to watch every penny. Women are also more likely to feel lonely in retirement, wishing they lived closer to their family. Stacey Stothard, Corporate Communications Manager at Skipton Building Society which commissioned the study of 678 retirees, said: Although many women do enjoy their retirement, this study shows they tend to worry more than men about certain things. Despite more women than men feeling ready to leave their...
  2. A Moment Of Calm – Poem – In Honour Of Our Girlfriends

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    Article by Ntathu Allen Blessed selves, and welcome to another Monday; another chance to pause, reconnect and find the magic within. Your weekly Moment of Calm is here for you, to take a few minutes out of your busy day to appreciate your beauty. Today’s Moment of Calm is an inspirational poem, Sistah-Friend, for you to share with your girlfriends. I know from my personal experience that my girlfriends, or sistah-friends as I call my extra close women? Or woman??Friends, have stood the test of time. In today’s Moment of Calm, I invite you to take a moment to pause, reflect on all the fun and in some cases not so fun times you have shared with your female friends and relations. As I write, I am instantly transported back in time, to when my dear brother John unexpectedly died, in 1997.  As you can imagine, my parent’s world, and...
  3. When ‘Old’ isn’t the Same old Old

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    Article by Jan King We know from bitter experience that women over the age of fifty tend to become invisible. We still don’t feature much in ads, and the fashion world largely ignores us. But now a government-commissioned report shows that, at least until the year 2030, we won’t be invisible any longer. The Filkin Report ‘Are You Ready for Ageing?’, published earlier this year, shows that between 2010 and 2030, the number of people aged sixty-five and over will increase by 51% and, even more extraordinarily, the number of people aged 85 and over will increase by a staggering 101%. So for the next twenty years or so, older people will vastly outnumber younger people. We’ll be visible everywhere you look. Of course, the visibility bestowed by sheer force of numbers isn’t the sort of visibility we FabafterFifty women would have preferred. We want to be visible in our...
  4. The Fab 50s – Managing the new Chapter of your Life

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    Article by Carole Spiers Being over 50 can be the beginning of a new chapter in your life; a time of growth and a period of regeneration. Middle age may be upon you but you have the experience and possibly the lines on your face that go with it!  Of course, you might wish that they weren’t there but that is another story!  However, they are there and each one tells the tale of your life’s experience. The post 50’s chapter brings not only experience but also brings you greater influence.  This is a time when reality starts biting and the dreams that you had when you were younger may now be drifting away into the mists of early romantic visions.  Having now faced the hard realities of life and the work required to maintain relationships, you will probably have discarded many of the assumptions and illusions of your youth....
  5. Three reasons to live a passionate life

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    Article by Sharon Eden- the Passion Whisperer Reason 1 – You’re a long time dead! When I was a child my grandmother was an old woman at 44 let alone 50.  And you can still find women of 50 with what I call ‘the perm and floral dress syndrome’ convinced it’s now all downhill to the graveyard. When I get clients with this syndrome, I tell them that the 90s are the new 70s, the 80s the new 60s, the 60s the new 40s and the 50s the new 30s.  So why kill yourself off when you’re still a spring chicken? Connect with your Passion.  Feel its vibrancy pulsing through your veins and live life out loud! Reason 2 – Passion is the anti-dote to depression I can’t tell you how many women I’ve worked with suffering from depression who’ve been told by their GP that recovery will take a...
  6. I honour the Goddess within

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    Article by Ntathu Allen. Bless you Gentle Reader and welcome to your Monday Morning Moment Of Calm. “I honour the Goddess within” Your Monday Morning Moment of Calm is a gift from us to you. A chance for you to pause, tune in, breathe out and gracefully ease and prepare yourself for another week at work. Each week will be different, and we welcome your thoughts and comments. In today’s post, we offer you a simple prayer. A few sacred words you can say softly to yourself during your day to remind you of your greatness, your power and ability to transcend all obstacles on your spiritual path to inner beauty. Before you read the poem, “I am a Goddess” take a moment to lower your shoulders, sit up straight, relax your jaw and smile. If a mirror is nearby, look at your reflection and give yourself a hug. I...
  7. Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife. My Top 7 Lessons

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    Article by Rebecca Perkins Rebecca Perkins, coach and author of Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife shares her top 7 lessons. 1, Take Time For Silence “Let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the gods,” Ralph Waldo Emerson taught us. We live in a noisy world. There was a lot of noise in my head. I longed for silence in a mad world. I have taken up meditation again, and this time I am guided in my daily practice. I take 20 minutes simply to sit and be aware of my breathing, allowing thoughts to come and go. I focus on my intention for my meditation. I have learned to take time for solitude and self-reflection. It is a healing remedy for the mind, body and soul. What activities or thoughts encourage a sense of peace for you? 2. You Are The Only One Standing...
  8. Best Knickers Always: 50 Lessons for Midlife

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    Article by Rebecca Perkins. Coach Rebecca Perkins shares her personal journey that led her to write her book, Best KnickersAlways: 50 Lessons for Midlife Life isn’t always (and let’s be honest never will be) sunshine and roses, and living in a perpetual state of nirvana would probably become stifling and boring. By the time we’ve reached midlife we’ve all faced our challenges—some of us more than others and some of us more than our fair share. Courage and resilience, however, come from our ability to get back up again after we’ve tripped and fallen over life’s obstacle course. Getting back up again is a choice. We always have that choice. So, we get to midlife and we face transition. Those of us who are parents come to realise that our children do not rely on us as they once did. They are leaving home. Those of us who have been...
  9. Passion or passion?

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    Article by Sharon Eden, the Passion Whisperer I bet that when you think of passion, certain associations come into your mind.  Like sex, being angry, ‘mad’, and/or going off the rails.  That’s because Passion and passion have both traditionally got bad press.  Ok… end of confusion! Passion with a big P refers to your essential life energy geyser, the creative life force in you from which everything flows… including your emotions.  Most importantly, it motivates you to be creative in your life.  Anything from baking cakes to rearing children, from writing an essay to works of art, from finding more efficient ways of doing your work to develop yourself as a fab-after-fifty-woman… and an infinite number of things in between! Passion with a small p refers to those things you love to do and will spend time, effort and, sometimes, money on.  Typically you can find yourself lost in your...
  10. Live the life YOU want at 50plus

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    Article by Keren Smedley If you are going to follow what the title says you need to look forward and decide what it is you want out of your life now and then work out how to get there.  Sometimes that is easier said than done. I wonder how many of you reading this article have thought like me that life hasn’t turned out as you’d expected when you’d played at being ‘grown-ups’ as children. We know rationally that we’d never become the prince or princess we dreamed of but I for one thought my life would follow a similar path to that of my parents. The reality is it hasn’t and in many ways that is no bad thing! The world we live in now isn’t the world of our childhood. I was born in the 50s into a traditional family. My father was the main earner and my...

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