Do women re-think their relationship when they turn 50?
Fabafterfifty: couples
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Article by Cat Williams As a relationship counsellor I would say yes, women do re-evaluate and re-think their relationships in their 50’s and 60’s because it is often a time in our lives when we feel a new sense of freedom. Our children are likely to have ‘flown’ and we might therefore be able to make new choices and might have new needs and expectations. I think there is also a sense of responsibility to ‘make the most of life’ before health issues might concern us, or grandchildren might limit us, and so on. We might have a sense of fear that if we don’t ‘get things right’ we might have regrets later on, or we might be trying to compensate for regrets we have about the past. It can be a time when women are looking for a greater sense of companionship from their partner because they have more...
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Approaching 50 and having to cope with a husband leaving for a younger woman. Any advice?
Article by Ceri Wheeldon Approaching a milestone birthday and coping with the end of a marriage at the same time is proving difficult for one reader. With her permission I am sharing the email she sent to me, hoping that other women can relate to her situation and offer some tips and support to deal with this difficult situation “Hi, I need advice. My husband of 20yrs has had an affair and has left our marriage. He moved his mistress in and they live near me. I am not coping with this much younger woman seeing my teenage boys. I am tearful, anxious and depressed with the situation and am on medication. No doubt there are other women who are in similar situations. How do you cope with the feeling that somebody has taken your life from you. My husband has done this before and I forgave him, but it’s...
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How to cope if you’re over 50 and your relationship with your husband is ‘boring’
Article by Keren Smedley The divorce rate is increasing for the 50’s and 60s and it’s the women who are instigating divorce proceedings. Many say that their husbands are boring, they never talk, they watch a lot of TV and fall asleep with the control in their hands! Often couples can rub along OK whilst they’re working and busy but the thought of retirement together fills them with horror. Many women with this thought in mind file for divorce whilst they’re still working and have time to arrange their retirement finances. Many have put up passively with being bored and somewhat dissatisfied with their life. They discuss it with their friends but not their husbands. If that’s the case, they undoubtedly contribute to the problem. It’s easy to become absorbed in our job, day and night. Is it possible that their husbands decide that, rather than disturbing their busy wives,...
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