Article by Michele Paradise- the Bridal Coach
I’ve met a lot of people in my lifetime and the common denominator for all of them is that everyone, and I mean everyone, wants a bit more confidence in some area of their lives.
I have met some of the most beautiful women and men in the world and on the outside they appear to have it all…the perfect body, the perfect face, the perfect skin and people pay them thousands of pounds just to wear their clothes or hold their product in a commercial. You may see them in a magazine or on TV and think they have no problems, they’re beautiful, but you would be wrong. They ask me to coach them in confidence, but what is confidence? I can’t put it in your hand or wrap it in a box and give it to you as a gift. It isn’t tangible and really doesn’t exist, does it? There isn’t a store that sells it or a magic pill that you can take to give you more confidence so what is it and how do you get more?
Do you remember your first driving lesson?
Do you remember your first driving lesson or the first time you got on a bike? Did you feel confident? Did you know that we do about 40 things each time we drive a car from A to B? That’s a lot and if you thought about it the first time you got in the car you would probably say to yourself I will never be able to do this, I will never pass my test but you eventually did. Maybe not the first time but you did pass and now you drive with confidence. And once you learn how to ride a bike you never forget. Your muscles remember exactly what to do without too much thought.
How to walk in high heels elegantly and confidently
A lot of women I work with want to know how to walk in high heels confidently, elegantly and without too much pain. They think I have a magic solution to doing this and I do. Are you ready? Just wear them! I can hear you say “Is that it?” Yes, that’s it. None of us were born wearing high heels, were we? Therefore we need to practice. Wear them everyday for about 15-30 minutes while you are doing other things like cooking, ironing, walking around the house so that they feel so natural and so comfortable that you forget about them and they feel like they have always been on your feet. Do this for about a month and you will see the difference and you will forget you have them on your feet.
So the secret to feeling more confident is practice. Competence breeds confidence and in order to get better at something we need to practice it. This just doesn’t work on the outside, this works on the inside too. I know you have an inner voice that talks to you all day long…we all do. But did you know that not all inner voices talk to their owners in a negative way? If I came up to you on the street and said some of the negative things that you say to yourself you would probably be upset, hurt or even angry but you allow yourself to do it all the time.
So everyday practice saying something nice to yourself, practice accepting compliments by saying ‘thank you’, practice walking into a room full of strangers and looking them in the eye, practice smiling more (it releases endorphins and makes you feel better). You will be surprised how quickly you begin to feel better about yourself and that will begin to make you feel more confident. Your friends and family probably won’t know exactly what is different about you but they will notice a change in you and more importantly you will notice a change in how people respond to you.
Feeling more confident after 50
Confidence is a state of mind like most things in life. There is no magic secret to feeling and acting more confident after 50…it takes practice!
Michele, a former catwalk model, has been training models for top London agencies for years and has now turned her attention to brides to be. Being a bride is like being a supermodel for the day so Michele prepares them by advising on buying the bridal shoes and wearing them elegantly and painlessly. She also works with the bride’s posture, posing for the camera and dealing with stress through relaxation techniques.”To learn more about Michele her websites are www.changeyourmindforgood.com and www.thebridalcoach.co.uk.