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I was built to be Magnificent! A confident woman


Guest Article by Lesley Dowden

I have been using twitter for about two and a half years now, and for a long while I ‘hid’ my age. I say hid – I just never revealed it(I’m 57). It quickly became obvious to me that most people thought I was a lot younger than my years – by as much as 20 years in some cases.
I was nervous about revealing my age in case people’s attitudes to me changed. I ‘follow’ lots of younger people and as a result of that have picked up younger ‘followers’. (Unfortunate phrase I know).
I thought if they knew the truth they would all think of me as a surrogate mum, and whilst there is nothing wrong with that, I wanted twitter to be my ‘escape’, my place if you like. We all know how you feel you have ceased to be you – as you become a wife and a mother and a homemaker.
However I decided that they had a right to know the truth – so I decided to no longer hide it but celebrate it.
Most were surprised initially, but it made no difference as by that time they had begun to see and get to know the real me.
If you follow my blog you will see that I have always been out of step with my generation through each decade. I relate more to younger people – even my daughters know their mum is somewhat different to the norm, and vastly different to either their friend’s or boyfriend’s mothers. In fact my youngest daughter’s boyfriend has suggested I be invited to his family get togethers. She has the sense to know it would be a disaster. I know this may seem slightly odd – but it’s far better than risking the inevitable clash.
My young twitter friends describe me as fun, wise, funny, cool, sexy (yes really), clever, intelligent and even silly at times. Oh and I am also a classy lady too apparently. So despite the fact that most of them are ‘virtual’, there is no pretence – well not on my part – and they can sense that too.  I think most read my blog too – so they can see that in reality I am so much like them I must know what I am about.
It also helps that I have confidence in bucketloads – that really is an attractive trait. People of all ages love a confident woman, one who knows her own mind and can stand up  for herself. Especially it seems the males of this world. 
The point I’m labouring to make is that a confident woman is attractive to everyone, and draws people to her – no matter what her age. But I also know that with age comes even greater self confidence – for me anyway.
Taking a lyric from Take That: I Was Built To Be Magnificent!
Damned right.

Lesley x

You can read more about Lesley’s journey on her blog

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  1. Zoe Dawes

    May 7, 2011

    So love your article Lesley – I was definitely born to be ‘quirky’ and aspire to be magnificent 😉

  2. Cindy Eve

    May 7, 2011

    Hi Lesley
    Loved your post!!! I have had a similar experience on twitter and many folks are amazed when I say I have a daughter of 30! And like you I enjoy the younger generation as well as my peers. Thats one of the things I love about twitter and facebook, you can be transparent and yourself and you are on an even playing field.
    As for confidence, the older I get the more confident I become….it’s great!!! and I relish every moment of it. Being over 50 is one of the best things in life.
    Thanks again for a lovely post.
    Regards
    Cindy
    @notjustagranny (who is not yet a granny!)

  3. Renee

    May 24, 2012

    So much like me…..just different and I love it. I related to my students well and still do. Just yesterday I was telling my daughter that I’m not young but youthful and she agreed. She’s 17. What a compliment.

  4. A

    November 2, 2012

    There are far too many of us “in the woodwork” I took the plunge a couple of years back and revealed my age to some fellow photographers who i had known for years – They all thought I was 10-20 years younger than I am. What a boost that was! Age? Pah! it’s only a number! I’m 62 by the way 😉

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