Mid Life is the time when we tend to reflect on where we are in our lives. How we have lived our lives up to this point suddenly isn’t quite so satisfying any longer. You realise what it is to live inside your own skin. Midlife has arrived…that gap between growing up and growing older.
It’s hard to pinpoint when precisely it happens, but at some point you just become comfortable in your own skin. This physical part of you that attracts people and things into your space. The visual contact that draws people in and puts them at ease. The part that so many women over 50 pay to change, lift nip and tuck to project the image of youth to go alongside their new found wisdom. At some point that mid life reflection stares back at you in the mirror and you start meeting its needs, wants and desires.
The need to connect to your real self becomes a priority. The held together self starts falling apart and you don’t want to put things back the way they were. The desire for change gets overwhelming. The journey for the next chapter in your life begins.
You start asking yourself what you want . Find yourself a great looking note book that represents you. Write down all your ideas, dreams and desires . The more you write the more you allow your brain to dig out what lies beneath that first layer. You may want a different look or need to present yourself differently. You want to respond differently when others ask for your time and attention- learn to say no more often! More travel or starting a new career or setting up a business may be on your agenda. The items on the list can be simple but add up to contribute to more noticeable changes.
Understand the real mid life you!
Understanding what the ‘real’ midlife you wants takes time. Be brave and evaluate each area from career to friendships. Think carefully about what you’re hanging on to mentally as well as physically and the “stuff” you’re hanging on to. Thinking you are not a priority needs to be swept and dusted out of the picture. It’s time to really face the reflection looking back at you in the mirror and decide who and where you want to be at this time in your life. This mid life moment is yours to savour.
When you begin to see and feel the changes within the inner you, the outer you starts to change too. You become at more ease with yourself. You start to attract new people, places and opportunities into your life without the need for acknowledgement or approval from those around you. Life’s not always about pleasing others. Welcome to mid life…the time between growing up and growing old.