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The Eternal Rock Chick


Article by Linda Evans

I went to a gig last night. (Brandon Flowers –the Killers’ vocalist- at the Eden Sessions, Eden Project, Cornwall.)  It’s a beautiful location, great acoustically and only holds 5,000, so you can really get up close and personal -right near the front-without worrying for your life.

I’m always fascinated when I go to see a band. I fully expect to be the oldest person there and have to admit, usually spend time getting ready – trying to get myself into ‘rock-chick’ mode rather than look as I’m off to the local pub for a swift half, (not that I actually drink beer mind, but it sounds better than a Spritzer.) So it’s smoky eye makeup, hooped or dangly earrings, a draped scarf, skinny jeans and a black vest –though down in Cornwall I can be a bit more of a surf-chick – hoody, flip-flops and sunglasses.

Then, as I’m walking into the venue I’m aware of the diversity of people and how my own insecurities always get the better of me. There are families with relatively small kids, and at the other end of the spectrum, golden oldies with pot bellies, balding heads and weird shoes, (that’s the men) and women with long flowery skirts, greying hair and old-school Clarks’ sandals . My first thought is always; “Wow do they really like this band?” But then why not? Fashion doesn’t dictate your taste in music, nor does age, and there’s no better way to find your inner-youth than rocking it! So, as I hit the next decade, I shall continue my taste in rock and will dance the night away (I can’t not move when I hear music,) and as long as I can keep jumping to those anthems, I’ll be leaping with the best of them arms waving in the air….so good for the heart ….and the soul! And the main thing is of course….no one else cares.

About me: So, I have been married for 28 years and my husband and I have known each other since we were 11 (although I had a brief marriage to an Italian in the 1970s). I have a 24 year old daughter who is interning at a London Ad agency . I was previously PR director for Toni and Guy and currently work 1990 when they started franchising and I became PR director for Toni&Guy and now work for TIGI as a consultant. In 2003 we moved to Cornwall. My husband took (very) early semi-retirement. Since then I’ve been splitting my time between London and Cornwall. My daughter and I now ‘share’ a flat in Battersea, a couple of hundred yards from my office. When I’m in Cornwall I fit in as much exercise as I can!

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  1. Judy Astley

    July 22, 2011

    You sound like my kind of woman Linda. I also loved the piece about your mum and her lover. Struck a chord…

  2. val m

    October 7, 2011

    Glad to know I’m not the only over 50 who loves to dance around at the slightest opportunity! This year did a festival for the first time ever – Latitude – by myself (husband not interested) and LOVED every minute of it – even sleeping in the car after tent leaked!! Life’s too short not to live it (although I do sometimes worry about what other people think)

    • Ceri Wheeldon

      October 9, 2011

      Great that you’re having so much fun. I haven’t slept in a tent since I was a Girl Guide- but in a rash moment I think I might just have agreed to a camping weekend with friends. Date to be confirmed!

  3. Julia S

    January 16, 2012

    I am loving reading what you write; tho I am a mere 47 (48 in March) I refuse to act my age when inside I am still 19. My daughter and I have been planning my half century party which will be fancy dress and have everything from rock n roll to metal music. I will not be one of the blue rinse brigade and will continue to have my hair any shade of red that I want it to be (currently a lovely bright copper) 😀 Here’s to growing old (very) disgracefully

  4. JoyStyx

    April 30, 2014

    I can so relate! It hasn’t exactly been a journey void of heartaches, mistakes, and plenty of learning experiences, And well, yeah, I’ve “Paid the price”, as my mother would always be there to remind me. But this is me. I have been this way since I was a tween. I live it, breathe it, absorb it, and express it. This is who I am, who I was born to be, and who I am today. I make no excuses, don’t try to be it part time, or some of the time, and make no apologies for being myself. If I make you uncomfortable, well, that’s your crap, not mine. I know who I am…. I am ROCKER CHICK, 80’s lady, musical mama, to the core! Always have been, always will be forever more. I’ve known it since I was 12, and bought my first single with my own money, and have ever since. But even as a toddler I would bop and dance along to the tunes my parent would play on their old turntable As I got older I obsessively collected records, had all my walls covered with rock star pictures to the point where the wall color itself was unidentifiable, and dreamed of marrying Tommy Shaw from the rock band Styx some day. My mothers would say things like, “You’ll change and in 20 years, and so will your priorities.” “We all grow up”. Guess what? That part of me remains the same.

    I am writing this now as a 48 year old married lady with a 22 year old son who is here to tell you that I still am rockin’ hard. I love all music as long as it’s good, and, as the Stones sang, “It’s Only Rock and Roll, but I like it, like it, yes I DO! There are certain bands throughout the years that hold the bestest memories, and the most wretched heartbreaks. There is a special place in my heart for them all. I still smile when I hear a burning guitar solo, a tight rhythm section, or amazing vocals. I am the lady who gets my whole section up and moving at a rock concert, who will pick up my guitar and try to figure out a new song that catches my ear, and can talk about music endlessly. My wardrobe has evolved over the years, but not much. Today I am a more chic version of what I used to be. My style is an extension of me. I am not seeking attention or trying to marry a rock star. I wear what makes me feel good, and because of this I know I look good. And if being me bothers the lady on the treadmill next to me, or at the grocery store or gym, and unkind words come my way, I fend off the daggers and walk away. I shrug it I know know that nobody really gives a rats ass anyway. Most people are too preoccupied with themselves and their own lives. My decor has mellowed. Today my walls are earth toned, and the Tommy Shaw posters have been replaced by funky art in frames, but when someone who has never seen my place before walks into our house they are not surprised to see that the rooms reflect the family who lives there.

    From time to time I long for a best girlfriend to share giggles with, go to a concert with, go shopping with or just hang out. But I know that it is probably not likely. It is during times like this that I am so grateful for my hubbie Jim. He has loved me all through the years, never asked me to change, and together we make beautiful music.

    Rock on ladies, “The Jersey Joystyx” Joy J.

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