Do you remember a time in the past when you were totally focused with goals that really excited you? When you knew exactly what you were going for and no one was going to stop you? Allow yourself to go back to that time now. Remember that sense of determination and how in control of your life you felt. Wasn’t it a wonderful feeling? Well, this Attitude is all about making those feelings a permanent fixture in your life and enabling you to live your life on purpose (in other words, as if you really mean it!) from this point onwards.
Why should you set yourself goals?
• Goals provide you with a destination. When we set goals, we are provided with a road map and a destination. It’s rather like having a compass for your mind.
• Goals help you to concentrate your time and effort. One of the reasons that people with goals achieve such outstanding results is that they have learned how to focus and concentrate their time, energy and resources on a single objective – even if it is just for a few hours at a time.
• Goals provide motivation, persistence and desire. Most significant accomplishments require resilience and determination. High achievers keep picking themselves up after each fall and continue working steadily toward their targets until they finally reach their goal.
• Goals help you establish priorities. Once you have a direction, other choices can be measured by how far they will assist you in achieving your result. Prioritising gets easier once you have a goal.
• Goals take you from where you are to where you want to be. One of the best ways to deal with a large or seemingly ‘impossible’ goal is to break it up into a series of intermediate achievable steps and get to work on each piece.
The million dollar question is: ‘What do you want?
If you’re not sure yet, start by asking yourself the following question: ’In which area or areas of my life am I not yet getting the results that I want?’ Key areas of life include career, family & friends, intimate relationships, personal development (such as increasing confidence and self-esteem, learning a new skill, etc.), health & fitness, wealth and any other area that is important to you right now.
Exercise 1: The journey begins
Imagine yourself in three years’ time. What do you want to have achieved by then? What will you be seeing, hearing and feeling? Get a really clear image in your mind. Turn up the brightness and size of the image, increase the sounds, and ramp up the feelings. Now come back to the present. Using your visualisation, list the area or areas of your life in which you are not yet getting the results you want.
Then, for each area you have identified, ask yourself two questions:
1. What’s most important to me about that area?
2. What specifically do I want to achieve?
For example if health and fitness is the area you want to focus on, for question one you might ask yourself what is important to you about your health and fitness levels. You might say: more energy, a nourished body, feeling great – that sort of thing. Get the idea?
For question, two, think about what it is you want to achieve. For example, working out three times a week, taking up a new exercise class, losing 20 pounds. It’s good to be as clear as you can about these specific goals. Once you have identified the areas of life you want to work on, and answered both questions for each area, you are ready to move onto the next Attitude ‘ I Create What I Want’
Want to learn more? Join Lindsey Agness for the free Age with Attitude
taster session on the 22nd October at the Ashford International Hotel.