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The Important Role of Grandparents


Awhy grandparents are important imagerticle By Diane Priestley

I remember the glory days of our kids’ early childhood: the Christmas that Nana and Pa presented two-year-old Justine with a giant fluffy bear bigger than herself; the birthday they gave her the bicycle with trainer wheels; the time Pa wrapped his arms around six-year-old Daniel and taught him how to swing a golf club and how they tinkered in the shed together.

Then when Justine started school and we were working late, she would stay with Nana and Pa every afternoon and Nana would make her a ‘happy plate’ and she would sit on Pa’s lap for a story or they’d giggle together at the cartoons. The reliable ritual was a refuge in her little life. There was no place safer and more fun than Nana and Pa’s cosy lounge room.

Grandparents play an important role in children’s lives

Grandparents play an important role in the lives of children. They offer an additional buffer zone of adult security, affection and attention. When Mum and Dad are tired and cranky and nagging about cleaning up your room, Nana and Pa are soft as butter and just melt at the sight of your cute little face.

Most older people have reached a stage of life where they have the patience and time to play games and go places. We can do the things we were too busy to do with our own kids.

Grandparents and great grandparents give children a link to another generation; a sense of their family history; a perspective of the past and a concept of the continuity of life; a respect for old age.

Pressured young parents are also fortunate if they have the support of their own parents who willingly lend a hand with babysitting and share in the pleasures and delights of their children.

It is sad for children who miss out on having loving grandparents actively participate in their lives. As experienced adults we can have a positive input into kids’ character formation; role-modeling valuable skills and qualities.

My own kids would certainly not be the well-rounded, confident, successful adults they are without the influence of their Nana and Pa in their formative years.

Grandchildren can enrich life in later years

Likewise, it is sad for grandparents who pass up involvement with their grand kids, preferring immersion in their own interests, because children can bring an enriching dimension to the later years.

And the tragedy for many grandparents and kids is losing that precious relationship when parents divorce. I believe that loving grandparents have a right to continue a relationship with their grandchildren even after family breakdown.

And this right has finally been recognised in the UK. Since March 2011 grandparents have been granted the legal right to maintain contact with their grandchildren after a family breakdown or divorce.

Of course just as not all parents are good for kids, not all grandparents are a positive influence. Some grandparents become caught up in taking sides in a marriage break-up and get into kids’ ears, bad mouthing the other parent.

It’s important for grandparents to stay neutral in the battle zone and simply provide a refuge. Confused kids will benefit from the stability they offer.

Parents, and society generally, must value grandparents and respect, protect and encourage the important and vitally enriching relationship between the grandparents and their grandkids.

 

Diane-Priestley

I am a seasoned journalist with a diverse career spanning over 30 years writing for newspapers, magazines and online publications in Australia and the UK. I am also a qualified counsellor, an active campaigner for good causes and a keen traveller who thrives on new people to meet, new places to explore and new stories to tell. My popular newspaper columns include Family Matters, an engaging weekly column I wrote for 10 years for The Geelong Advertiser, Quest newspapers and the Sunshine Coast Daily. I wrote Relationships Matters for the Courier Mail. On moving to London, I wrote Midlife Matters about the tricky issues of midlife. I am now launching MAD Matters, about Making A Difference for humanity, documenting my experiences volunteering and travelling in developing countries. I am married to Andrew, a successful business coach and we have two grown-up children. We all enjoy living in London and travelling.

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  1. Caroline Carr

    March 18, 2012

    Yes, Grandparents are a hugely important recourse. It’s that wonderful wisdom of years thing…

  2. MarcieMom

    March 19, 2012

    Grandparents are a blessing! They stepped in to help me babysit when I had to hold the #4Eczema twitter party on Sat morning and it’s really good that my toddler was well-behaved that day!

  3. Jo Carroll

    March 19, 2012

    Grandchildren are simply wonderful! They can’t possibly know the joy they bring me!

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