For many of us who relocate or find ourselves going through life changes in our 50s, meeting new people is not always easy. I asked Gill Buchanan, founder of Hens Dancing to share her tips on how to approach attending a first ‘organised’ social event:
I often get asked, ‘what is it actually like turning up at a Hens Dancing social event?’
Most women come on their own the first time and for some that’s a bit of a daunting prospect. The great thing about Hens Dancing is that all the meetings are hosted and from walking through the door you will be greeted with a warm welcome and be introduced to other members so you soon feel comfortable and can relax.
I love that quote by William Butler Yeats:
“There are no strangers here, only friends who haven’t yet met.”
It is so apt for Hens Dancing. I have hosted Coffee Mornings to launch new groups where 25 – 40 women who don’t know each other turn up and within minutes, lively conversation and laughter fill the room – it is so amazing to see. Often anyone turning up late assumes that everyone else knows each other!
I think the reason for this is that when you get a group of women together there’s a special camaraderie filling the air. Women are quick to find out what they have in common, to share life’s challenges and to be supportive of one another.
This is why all our meetings have a social element. So if we’re going to the theatre we meet for supper first, or if we are having a speaker we have a chance to mingle over a buffet and lots of our events are pure social fun from afternoon teas to supper clubs.
Hens Dancing works well for those that are on their own and want to make new friends and works equally well for those that are married but enjoy a night out with the girls.
How to plan for your first ladies coffee morning or event
Tips for your first Hens Dancing meeting:
- Arrange to travel with another member under our travel in twos scheme. Just email firstname.lastname@example.org with the name and date of the meeting and your postcode.
- Go with an open mind and a happy heart and you will have a fabulous time!
- Be interested in the other women and ask them questions as well as sharing a little about yourself.
- Aim to get to know one or two women who are very local to you so you can exchange phone numbers and car share for future meetings.
- Let the Group Leader, who hosts the meeting, know of any ideas you have for future meetings.
We will soon be making a short film at one of our Hens Dancing gatherings which will give you an even better idea of what we are all about so look out for it on the Hens Dancing website. In the meantime, do take a look at our past events section to find out what we’ve been up to at hensdancing.com.
Gill Buchanan is the founder of hensdancing.com