Article by Ceri Wheeldon
Most of my single female friends complain that there seems to be a lack of ‘good’ men who are single, available and willing to date women over 50. I am always being asked ‘surely you must know someone normal you can introduce me to?’.
I was surprised to have recent conversations with some single male friends who seemed to be of a similar opinion – but in reverse. They seem to feel it’s impossible to meet single suitable women to form lasting relationships with. And for the men they say it often goes wrong on the very first date.
So what did the men have to say about they think women are doing wrong on a first date?
First date mistakes
- Trying too hard, playing too hard and not giving a sense of what they are like as a person.
- Talking too much about their divorce/ex husband.
- Only talking about themselves.
- Complaining about the lack of suitable single men.
- Suggesting somewhere expensive as a meeting place.
- Running the date like an interview- asking too much about career, prospects and financial stability.
- Not being relaxed.
- Asking too many questions about past relationships.
- Keep checking their phone.
- Giving the impression of being a bunny boiler!
I’m the women would have plenty to say about what the men do wrong on a first date too. Definitely food for thought!
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Ceri Wheeldon
Ceri is Founder and Editor of Fabafterfifty.co.uk She is a frequent speaker at events and in the media on topics related to women over 50 , including style and living agelessly. With 20+ years experience as a headhunter Ceri also now helps support those looking to extend their working lives.
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Joanne
Hi Cheri, I liked the article. Ohhhh first dates, haha 🙂
Something came to my mind, though… I think men -in general- wouldn’t like at least some of the items on this list at any given time.
For example #6 and 8… Men just don’t seem to like too many questions – period. Never mind if it’s a first date or not. True? LOL, I think these women are just efficient. After all, they’re past 50, right? You don’t want to ‘waste’ months getting to know a person only to find he’s not your type.
#2 Talking too much about divorce/ex… I don’t think men would like that after the 1st date either.
#7… Under or over 50, who’s relaxed on their first date??? Aren’t the men a bit uncomfortable too?
#9, it appears to me that checking your phone would be the equivalent to smoking a cigarette 20 years earlier. It gives you something to do in awkward moments 🙂
#1… hey, give them some slack these women… it’s not like there’s dozens of other opportunities… Don’t we all, men and women alike, never mind what age, want to look our best on our first date?
Just my humble mixed up thoughts… 😉 Maybe you should write that list about what men do wrong on their first date 😉
P.S. I’m still married and hope I’ll never have to date again! 🙂