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Does your daughter-in-law view you as the mother-in-law from hell?


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How do you welcome your child’s partner into your family?

Research revealed millions of women find themselves in daily battles with their other half’s mum over everything from style and fashion to how to bring up the kids.

The report also found as many as one in ten women are currently not speaking to their mother-in-law following a particularly bitter bust-up.

Sharing their opinions on how to raise the children was the most common bone of contention, followed by acting as if they know what’s best for the kids.

Constantly stating ‘In my day, we did it like this ..’ also ranked highly, as did taking credit for all her son’s good points because ‘he takes after her’.

References to weight and fashion sense also cause friction, the report revealed.

The issues emerged following a study carried out among 2,000 adults by OnePoll- their spokesman commented:

”There are many good things about mother-in-laws, such as them always being around to lend a hand with the babysitting.

”But the report seems to suggest they also know exactly how to push the buttons of their daughter in law, if they want to make a point.

Raising children the most common cause for arguments

”Raising children is always going to be a contentious issue, but this emerged as the most common cause for arguments.

”Perhaps age-old jokes about the mother-in-law still have a place in our society for the time being.”

The study also found 41% of women have asked their partner to have a word with their mother because of something their mother-in-law has said or done.

A similar number have fallen out with their mother-in-law because of something they have said or done, with almost one in ten (8%) saying this is a regular occurrence.

18% refused to speak to their mother-in-law following something they said or did which upset them.

Mother-in-laws have put many relationships under stress

Around half of women have argued with their partner about the mother-in-law, with 38% even admitting their partner’s mother has put a strain on their relationship.

Shockingly, more than one in twenty have even broken up with someone because of their mother-in-law, while another 15% have come close to a split over her (that’s a total of one in five who’ve had a relationship suffer because of the mother in law).

Mother-in-law’s 10 worst traits

1. Sharing their opinions on how to raise your children
2. Acting like they know what’s best
3. Declaring ‘In my day, we did it like this … ‘
4. Criticising your mothering skills
5. Giving your children too much junk food
6. Acting as if she knows what your children like and don’t like
7. Not listening
8. Making out they know their child better than you
9. Tidying up on arriving at your house
10. Interfering in financial matters

Narrowly missing the top ten worst traits were taking credit for her son’s good points ‘because he takes after her’ and putting pressure on starting a family.

Of course – there is no mention of the daughter-in-law’s worst traits!

 

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  1. Monika

    January 14, 2014

    Why are we only concentrating on daughters-in-law not son-in-laws? And all this seems very old hat and ageist. Most mothers-in-law are too busy working and having their own lives these days to have time to cause all this domestic angst.

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