It’s difficult to walk back into the dating scene after many years of being away from it. The years can knock your confidence and self-assurance. In fact, a lot of women are so intimidated by the very prospect of dating again that they shut off the possibility altogether and give up on finding any new relationship.
Another firm belief in the minds of those dating again in later years is that all the good men have gone: swallowed up in happy marriages. But this attitude is neither helpful nor particularly accurate. Here are a few ways to start dating again and finding a good man for yourself…
It might sound like a bit of a cliché, but loving yourself is the true first step to being able to love others again. The end of a relationship or a divorce may have understandable knocked your self-confidence and self-belief. Now that you’re single, learn to feel comfortable with yourself again.
Enjoy and revel in your independence, as it will soon bring out the best in you. When you are happy with yourself, you’ll see rejoining the dating world as a simple task.
Change your attitude
It’s time to dispense of the attitude that there are no good men left. Think about your own situation – what has caused you yourself to be single and back in dating range at this time in your life? Would you consider yourself a ‘good woman’?
There are many reasons relationships break up. Often being a good or a bad person has little to do with it. There will be many men out there in similar situations to you, just waiting to find love again. And there will be little wrong with any of them.
Look in the right places
A key part of finding a good man is looking in the right places. As social spheres and networks often drop off later in our lives, it can be much more difficult to meet new people. Be inventive and proactive with this.
Go out looking in the places you would expect good like-minded people to congregate. Take up a new hobby or start an evening class, for example. Find old school friends on Facebook. If you’re not proactive, it will be hardly surprising that you find no one suitable to date.
Probably the most proactive thing you can do is sign up to an online dating website. These are easy to use and will help boost your confidence. You can chat and browse for someone suitable, and some sites even match you for compatibility, basing decisions on things such as faith, age or lifestyle.
For example, eHarmony UK asks many questions as part of the sign-up process to ensure it matches people who have a great chance of a lifetime of happiness together.
Whether you’re looking for love among Glasgow singles, or entering the dating world again in London, don’t let your attitude mar your search. There are plenty of good, single men still out there. You’ve just got to find them in the right way.