As a new survey claims that women feel invisible to the opposite sex at 51. If you had been one of the 2000 women asked to participate, would you have responded in the same way?
I have to say that this particular survey seems to convey a pretty grim outlook on life over 50 – it would be interesting to see precisely what questions were asked.
These are just some of the findings:
- Many went as far as to admit they felt ‘ignored’.
- The women who said their confidence plummeted after hitting 50 blamed the fact their hair was greying or they were having to wear glasses, while others found it harder to find fashionable clothes.
- The lifestyle study, commissioned by herbal remedies company, A.Vogel, also found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt ‘completely unnoticed’ by the opposite sex.
- More than half said they felt ‘left on the shelf’ and that they’d been ‘judged negatively’ because of their age.
- The study also found just 15% of women over 45 could claim they had high or very high confidence while, sadly, nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all.
- The biggest reason for a decline in self-belief was the feeling that their image had deteriorated.
- A dejected four in ten said not getting attention from men like they used to was a factor, more than half had felt intimidated by the presence of younger women at a social event.
- A concerned six in ten of the 2,000 studied felt modern life is geared toward a focus on younger women, while 46% thought that a lot of what older women go through wasn’t seen or spoken about.
The menopause and confidence
- The research also examined the effect the menopause has on women’s confidence as they age.
- The results showed around one in five who had experienced menopausal symptoms had difficulty in finding answers to the questions they had about the changes they were facing.
- In fact, only 13% felt women were well supported in the lead up to the menopause.
The research, which also involved 500 men, showed many have a ‘head in the sand’ approach to the menopause.
“The results show a worrying decline in confidence and self-worth in women when faced with the prospect of growing older.The world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy” according to a spokesperson for the company who commissioned the survey.
What are your thoughts?
In terms of answers to questions on the menopause, we have lots of information, including a series of video interviews with Dr Marilyn Glenville which hopefully offer a measure of support .
I think the one finding that I found most disturbing was feeling intimidated by younger women at a social event . I would love to hear your thoughts on this, especially as another survey indicated that women felt their most confident at 52.