Six years ago I thought my life was over. My husband left me for younger woman. I began comfort eating made which obviously made me put on weight, I felt old. After a year of living in this way I caught sight of myself and realised I had to force myself to wake up. I joined a gym, lost the weight, found a new man, an American.
Most of my life, I could not understand what people saw in sex. Sex during my marriage was a small gift for my husband, nothing more. At the age of 53 I met my new (and current partner) and I discovered what most women already knew, that sex can be fun and that there are men out there who like to give pleasure as much as getting it. I was a late developed but a quick learner. I started reading about sex and more importantly talking about of course, having it. Not very often, there was that inconvenient ocean between us.
It was then my sexual revolution picked up a pace. What started as a dare introduced me to the world of online dating, which was when my alter ego Adrienne was born, who was smarter and more outrageous than me. In the years that followed, I met many men and had sex with a select few. What they didn’t know was that I wrote account of the encounters to Tom who had a voyeuristic streak. Everybody had fun.
I am too old for sex
Having all that experience made me not only a better lover, but I feel also a better doctor for my patients. I know now that sex is important in life. I am able to ask open questions, listen, and give advice. The experience gave me a different insight into those women saying “ I am too old for sex”, and also men with erectile dysfunction not coming to the doctor because they are embarrassed, I feel I’m more able to help as my own embarrassment on these matters has vanished.
My memoir is about all those adventures, some funny, some sad, but also about love, friendship and about breaking taboos and challenging societies misconceptions about age.
The messages of my book?
- Be bold. Nobody can respect you if you do not respect yourself.
- Communicate, it helps in sex, too. Guesswork is hard work.
- Life (and sex) does not end after 50! A Woman with (No) String Attached: A Memoir by Lucie Novak (published by Clink Street Publishing, RRP £9.99, ebook RRP £3.99) is available online at retailers and can be ordered from all good bookstores.