Article by FabafterFifty
Renewing your wedding vows can be a great way of celebrating and reaffirming your love and commitment to one another. While most people often hold a renewal ceremony on a big anniversary such as their 10th, 25th or 50th year of marriage, it is not uncommon to hold such a ceremony much closer to the date of the original ceremony. Regardless of whether you have recently eloped or have been happily married for half a century – a vow renewal is a great time to surround yourself with friends and family and celebrate you and your partner’s dedication to each other.
In order to help you make the most of such a ceremony, we have put together a handy list of things you should, and shouldn’t do when you reaffirm your marriage.
- If you plan on making your renewal ceremony a large and elaborate affair, be sure to let your intended guests know about the gathering at least six months in advance. This will allow them to make necessary arrangements in terms of getting time off work, booking flights if needed, and to make sure they don’t end up double booking themselves.
- Emphasise the fact that you do not want attendees to bring gifts. Unless you are recently returning from your elopement and would like to formalise your marriage in front of family and friends for the first time, it can be considered to be a bit tasteless if you insist that guests bring gifts seeing as you are already an established married couple.
- Keep your renewal of marriage vows casual and simple. Make sure you focus on your future together, rather than drawing attention to any negativity in your past. That being said, a wedding vow renewal ceremony can be a great way of reaffirming your love for one another after coming out of a particularly rough patch in your marriage.
- A renewal ceremony can be a great opportunity to bless your existing wedding rings, or replace them with new ones all together. A new engagement ring like Vashi’s bespoke rings for example to go alongside your original could be a great way of reminding yourself of your renewed vow – although you may want to discuss this option with your partner before going out and buying one!
- Although the final word about what happens at your wedding vow renewal ceremony lies exclusively with you, there are a few things that you should try and avoid anyway. One such thing is holding Bachelor and Bachelorette-style parties. These may have been fun when you first got married, but a vow renewal ceremony should be about renewing your commitment to one another, and not used as an excuse to go and party with your girlfriends.
- Bridal showers are another thing you should avoid if you are planning a vow renewal ceremony. Expecting your friends to throw you one ahead of the renewal can be seen as tacky, more so if you and your spouse have been together for a great deal of time.
- If you plan on re-enacting your walk down the aisle, don’t do it alone. Do it with your partner, or better still, with your children in tow. This can be a great way to include your children (who may now be adults) in the renewal ceremony.