Can you really transform your life in just one month?
Here is the final set of tips to help change your life. It’s never too late to change your life to live the life you really want.
The Good Witches of the North have a created 31 simple tips, or “spells” – one per day, for one month – that anybody can use to unlock their own inner magic:
Here are the final 11 ‘spells’ or tips to transform your life over 50 in a month.
The “Power in Numbers” Spell:
Sometimes we all want a bit of help, somebody stood right behind us to tell us what to do, to point us in the right direction when we’re unsure. Well help is here in the form of a spell that swells the numbers of people behind you and resources at your fingertips.
Imagine if you could create a personal board or a team of advisors just for you, who would be on your side no matter what. Who would you choose, if it could be anyone living or dead? Select those people that you think that would help you best, find out as much as you can about them – read, Google, research and get a sense of their character and their strengths. The next time you find yourself not knowing what to do, take time out and imagine that you are sat with your team and ask them individually what they would do in this situation. Each of their ideas will combine with yours to create a solution that fits.
The “What a Difference a Day Makes” Spell:
Feeling low and lacking energy? Then you need to shake it up and have a day of difference. Difference can energise as it takes us out of our comfort zone, which is what is zapping your energy, but once out of the zone that’s where the magic happens and we see new possibilities and energy restores.
Aim for 6 differences, and record and reflect on how you feel after doing each. Be bold, be courageous, dare yourself – sit on the front row, tell your boss your great idea, change your hair colour, buy new glasses, buy a daring new fragrance, wear something that makes you stand out, talk to a stranger, compliment someone you wouldn’t normally… basically, stop waiting and just go for it!
The “Assertiveness” Spell:
Whenever you feel like you aren’t saying what you mean or people are taking advantage, stop and take yourself out of the situation mentally. Go for a walk, find a loo cubicle or something else if you need to, and picture yourself doing the ‘assertive’ thing you want. Once you are back in the conversation, visualise again, and then before you can count to two, do it! If you intercept your own two seconds, the spell will work!
The “Voice” Spell:
When your voice isn’t having the impact you’d like it to and you feel like you aren’t being listened to, lift your chin and say the word “right” as if you are trying to reach the other end of the room. See yourself as someone really important (because you are!), say what you need to say and know that whatever you say will be valid. However you need to say it. They will listen if you hold yourself with importance.
The “Success” Spell:
When you really need things to work and go well, envisage specifically what you need to go well. Pay attention to every last detail. And then tell yourself that you can follow that through. Know in detail how you can and also remind yourself that you have everything within you to be flexible to the situation as it emerges. Tell yourself three times out loud, take a deep breath and then walk forward like you mean business.
The “Charisma” Spell:
This tip is perfect for when you need a little ‘je ne sais quoi’ to come into play. Pay attention to everything around you, one thing at a time and let yourself be affected in every single moment by everything you notice. Don’t judge, don’t make meaning, just allow yourself to respond a bit like branches in the wind. When you are talking to other people, do exactly the same thing. Instant charisma.
The “Inner Energy” Spell:
When you feel zapped and you need more ‘zing,’ take a moment to stand tall, close your eyes and imagine that you have a beam of energy coming from underneath your feet. Imagine it right through your legs and spine and out through the top of your head, then wave your arms high in the air above your head madly. When you feel yourself fully charged you are ready to get to it.
The “Courage” Spell:
When you need to feel a little braver ask yourself, if you were an animal, which one would you be? What colour would you be? What would you do if you needed to protect your land and your family? Now dare to embody the characteristics of that animal in your own unique human self and your courage will simply arrive.
The “Stress Release” Spell:
When the stress levels hit dizzying heights, find somewhere to sit in peace for a few minutes. Close your eyes and apply pressure with your index fingers to your temples for five seconds, release for five, apply for five. Repeat several times. Breathe slow and easy into your stomach. Roll your shoulders back and down – release, don’t hold. Then envisage a sunny day and gently open your eyes.
The “Get Centred” Spell:
When you feel off-balance and in need of some centredness, stand with your feet parallel and shoulder width apart. Bend your knees and let your full body weight drop into your pelvic area and distribute evenly down your legs and through the soles of your feet. Close your eyes and very gently move the weight from one foot to the other. Repeat several times before settling back into a fluid central place. Retain the energy centre in your pelvic area as you continue with your day from a centred place.
The “Creativity” Spell:
When you need some creative boost in your ideas take a walk out into the fresh air – even if it is freezing or raining, or both! – and look up and out at a 45 degree angle. Ask yourself “what if I could do anything I wanted with this without consequence?”, “what if money and other resources were unlimited?”, “what would the six year old me suggest?” After these magic three questions and some worldly elements, your brain will have moved and your creativity will be more accessible to you.
Bec Howard and Dannie-Lu Carr are expert leadership coaches and co-founders of The Good Witches of the North – a unique women’s leadership retreat for the mind which uses the psychology of identity and performance to empower women’s voices and mindsets so they can lead authentically, step into their power and succeed. www.thegoodwitchesofthenorth.co.uk