It’s never too late to change your life to live the life you really want.
The Good Witches of the North have a created 31 simple tips, or “spells” – one per day, for one month – that anybody can use to unlock their own inner magic:
Here are the second 10 ‘spells’ or tips to transform your life over 50 in a month.
The “Freedom” Spell:
We go through life with a long list of things we ought to, should do, need to, must do or have to do. It is exhausting, but have you ever asked yourself where this list came from? When did you decide to adhere to all these rules? Most of them will not be yours but rules handed down to you as you have passed through life.
Take a pen and capture your list of “oughts” and “shoulds”. Check it twice and see what rules you want to keep, what rules aren’t useful and which are cluttering up your life. Take the ones you don’t want anymore and then bin, burn or throw them away and feel the freedom.
The “Letting Go of the Past” Spell:
Many of us have memories of times when we feel things didn’t go the way that we wanted them to, or we feel bad or uncomfortable about them looking back.
Find a memory that niggles you, makes you feel unhappy and that you would like to feel different about. Go back into that memory and notice the details about what you remember. Is your memory colour or black or white? Are there sounds? Is the memory large or small? Does it appear near or far away from you? Are there any smells? Are you are seeing it through your own eyes or are you looking at it as though it’s a photograph? Note what you find down. Then go back into the memory and change everything to its opposite e.g. if the memory was colour change it so it’s black and white. Once you have made everything opposite to what it was, go back into the memory and notice how you feel different about it now.
The “Relationship Improver” Spell:
Sometimes we wish that we could just get on with someone better, be it a boss or a friend, but we just don’t know how to make it better. This shoe spell helps you unlock exactly what you need.
Get three pairs of shoes and place them in three different positions in a room.
Stand in the first pair of shoes, your shoes, and talk out loud about the problem you are having with the person and say what’s irritating you about them, really go for it. Next go and stand in the second pair of shoes and pretend to be the person you are having a problem with and talk as though you are them and say out loud what they are irritated with you about. Then step into the third pair of shoes and look back at the two other pairs of shoes you have just stood in and ask yourself what’s going on between these two people. Finally step back into your shoes and notice what has changed about how you feel about the person you had a problem with.
The “Happiness” Spell:
When you need a little smiley lift in your day, remember the funniest thing that ever happened to you or that you ever saw. Replay each moment and fully enjoy the re-experience. Let yourself giggle, lol and guffaw. Carry that lifted spirit with you all day long.
The “Energy Blast” Spell:
Create your own personal energy blast, no need for vitamins, power supplements all you need is you. Firstly, decide what emotional ingredients you would like in your energy blast, for example you could have power, excitement, happiness, strength – anything you like! Decide your four or five ingredients and then imagine there is a circle on the floor.
Think of your first emotional ingredient and then imagine a time when you experienced that emotion – see what you saw, feel what you felt, hear what you heard and when you feel the intensity of the emotional ingredient rise to its peak step into the circle. Repeat this for each of your emotional ingredients and when you have done them all you can step into your energy blast circle as it is complete. Try placing your circle at your front door so you can step into your energy blast every time you go out and come home.
The “Clarity” Spell:
When you need to ensure what you say is not misunderstood make sure you use one sentence with less than ten words, and then stop. Don’t justify yourself. Don’t explain. Less is more. Be tough on yourself with your content.
This one is a bit like a new season wardrobe clear-out – if you’re not sure you need it, lose it! Vocal clarity will occur as a result and your communications will fly, meaning you become more effective.
The “Worry Warrior” Spell:
We all have worries day to day about things that we’re not looking forward to, be it a presentation, an interview, a first day at work or a first date.
The “Worry Warrior” works by imagining that you can time travel. So imagine that it’s just after you completed the event that you were worried about and it went really well, imagine how you feel knowing you completed it successfully, what you saw and what you heard people say to you afterwards. Spend several minutes really imagining how it was when you’d completed it successfully, then come back to the present and notice how you feel differently about your event now.
The “Confidence” Spell:
When you need a bit of a boost in terms of feeling like you can be and are absolutely great, remember yourself as you were when you were five years old. Now imagine that five-year old acting as though they were king/queen of the playground. Nobody held you back then did they? That’s the thing you envisage and then that’s the energy you tap back in to. Go forth your majesty!
The “Feeling Better” Spell:
Everybody wants to feel better, but sometimes we just seem to be having those days that seem to be getting worse by the minute and our negative feelings can spiral out of control and make us feel even worse.
Sanity and feeling better are easier than you think, for what you need to understand is that a feeling is just a thought travelling through your body. If you notice your feeling and you don’t like it, you can simply change the thought and feel better, it’s that simple. Try it for a day and notice how easy it is to do.
The “Problem Remover” Spell:
Find me a person who doesn’t have a problem, or several problems. What they all have in common is that as soon as they decide that they have a problem they get themselves stuck and don’t know where to look, when all they need is themselves and a bit of distance.
So here’s how you do it – I want you to pretend you’re a reporter, and write an article about the problem you’re having, as though you were writing about someone else having this problem. In fact, give the person in the article a different name too. Then read back the article to yourself out loud and notice as you read the three ideas you now have to solve your problem.
Bec Howard and Dannie-Lu Carr are expert leadership coaches and co-founders of The Good Witches of the North – a unique women’s leadership retreat for the mind which uses the psychology of identity and performance to empower women’s voices and mindsets so they can lead authentically, step into their power and succeed. www.thegoodwitchesofthenorth.co.uk