Article by Ceri Wheeldon
‘What do you think men see when they come out of the shower and look in the mirror?’ is the question posed by one friend over a girls lunch. ‘My husband comes out of the bathroom strutting around like a peacock, whereas I (after cleaning the shower) look in the mirror see where everything has drooped or wrinkled and come out of the bathroom feeling deflated’.
‘Does the mirror treat men more kindly? Or do they not see that extra tyre around the middle or that face that has not aged well, seeing instead a youthful image of themselves and possessing a confidence that makes them feel they can still conquer the world .’
Do they really not see the physical changes in themselves – or do they just ignore them? Why is that they can look at their reflection and still see an Adonis?
Are men oblivious to the signs of ageing?
Are men oblivious to the signs of physical ageing – do they always see their 30 something self in the mirror?
Or are they just more accepting of themselves? We are constantly bombarded as women with adverts for the latest anti-ageing products all promising the illusion of eternal youth – but where are those same campaigns and pressures for men?
Men don’t really have to worry about what to wear or looking like ‘mutton dressed as lamb’ – they have been wearing essentially the same uniform since they moved into long trousers at the age of 11.
As the lunch and conversation progressed with images of preening post shower husbands in our minds, the conversation then moved on to more serious topics, with one friend saying that her sixty-something husband often saying that he could walk away tomorrow and find 45 year old, in fact she suspects that he may well be having an affair – but has no proof and at this stage does not wish to rock the boat. So is THAT the mirror they look at – not the image of their own reflection but do some men see themselves reflected in the woman they have on their arm?
Do men and women see their reflection in the bathroom mirror so differently?