The advances made in cosmetic surgery means that if you can think up a creative story and you have minor changes that aren’t noticeable unless you’re looking out for them, you could easily have breast implants or a face lift without anyone finding out. Sure, they’d notice that you looked different or a few years younger, but they wouldn’t quite know why. But just because you could have cosmetic surgery without anyone knowing doesn’t necessarily mean you should.
Trust is a central pillar of any strong relationship, so you should always speak to your partner before choosing to go ahead with cosmetic surgery. If the first time they find out about your surgery is once you’ve already had it they will feel betrayed. The good news is that many women who’ve known their husband for decades can still be pleasantly surprised by how supportive their partners are once they’ve explained why they want to have surgery. If your partner doesn’t back your decision initially don’t despair.
The first thing you should do is let them explain their concerns. They might be worried about the financial costs, concerned about your safety during the operation itself or they might even be worried that you want to improve your appearance because you want to make yourself attractive to someone else – unless you listen you’ll never know and won’t be able to put them at ease.
If they’re still unhappy with your decision offer to take them along to a no-obligation consultation. This way they can have all their questions answered by an experienced expert in the field.
What to tell your children
How you approach the topic with your children will largely depend on how old they are – many women actually find it harder to tell their grown up children, who can have strong opinions about cosmetic surgery, whilst the main concern of younger children is that their mum is healthy and happy.
In almost every case it’s better to say something rather than nothing. Even the youngest kids have an uncanny ability to tell when something has changed, and if they’re unsure of what’s going on it could leave them anxious or upset. At the very least you will want to let them know that you will be requiring a lot of rest!
Even if your children still believe in Father Christmas and the tooth fairy it’s better not to make up elaborate stories to explain what you will be doing. Your children will just want to know that you are going to be healthy and happy, so reassure them and be prepared to receive plenty of support. Older children that have left the nest and disagree with your choice may need to be respectfully reminded of all the times they’ve told you they’re old enough to make their own decisions.
Opening up to friends
If you have friends that you know have had work done speaking to them first could be a great idea. They’ll be able to tell you what to expect, give you advice on how to bring up the subject with other friends or family members, and they might even be able to recommend a good surgeon.
Even if you don’t know anybody that’s had cosmetic surgery it’s worth talking to your friends. It’s very probable that you’ve got at least one friend that has considered having something done themselves, and you might end up helping them more than you thought by bringing up the subject. Letting your friends know that you’ll be recovering also means they’ll be able to visit you and offer you their support, which can be very valuable in the immediate days after surgery.
Opening up to love and support
There was a time when people didn’t talk openly about cosmetic surgery – anyone over 50 should easily be able to recall that time. But today things are different. Cosmetic surgery is no longer a taboo subject. While it might still feel daunting telling the most important people in your life, doing so will open you up to their love and support.
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