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How to move forward when you hit rock bottom


Article by Amanda C Watts

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Hitting rock bottom. What’s next eh? Well you can’t go backwards that’s for sure, or fall down any deeper, because you are at rock bottom.

 

So, what does rock bottom mean to most?

 

  • It could mean no money, and being in debt
  • It could mean that you are stuck on the career ladder and failing to get promoted
  • It could mean the break-up of a relationship
  • It could mean being in a toxic relationship and abused and needing to get out
  • It could mean the death of a loved one
  • It could mean addiction to drugs and drink, and the inability to function in life properly…

 

Rock bottom means different things to different people. My opinion though is that rock bottom is one of the best places you can ever get to, because once you have hit it, the only way is UP!

 

So it’s time to give up, or go big!

 

How could you go big? Well, just like most things in life, if you take baby steps and only look at the step in front of you then life doesn’t seem so daunting.

 

My life hit rock bottom when I left a toxic relationship and had two children and no home or money. I had to go onto benefits and faced two choices.  Get a job, or… build a dream life for myself, on my terms, doing what I loved (Go big).

 

So I chose the latter and at the time I didn’t know how I was going to achieve it. However, 3 years later I had a business, emotional and financial success, and had changed my life for the better.

 

Here, I share the steps I took, and the steps I show my clients to help them get out of the situation they are in, and create their dream life!

 

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” Henry Ford

 

The biggest thing that stops us from achieving our dreams in life is fear.  Fear to give up the job and live in our purpose.  Fear to leave the relationship because it may ruin the children.  Fear to invest in yourself in case it’s a waste of money. Fear to face reality, because reality is scary.

 

But fear goes when you have nothing to lose. That’s why rock bottom is so great!

 

So what action should you take when you hit rock bottom?

 

  1. Learn from your mistakes.

 

 If you are unhappy at rock bottom then look at what got you there.  You are responsible for your own destiny so your actions will have got you there, whether you knew it or not.

 

  1. Know you have everything to gain.

 

The beauty of rock bottom means you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. When I had nothing and was on benefits I filled my brain with mountains of knowledge.  I read, watched videos and learnt as much as I could about creating a powerful and strong business, which would give my children and me a dream life. Everything I learnt I put into practice, and I am a walking testimonial to investing in personal development.

 

  1. Look around You

 

Look at the five main people that you spend your time with. Are they focused, successful (or getting there) and optimistic? Try and rub shoulders with the type of person you want to be.  This doesn’t have to mean only socialising with people with money. If you want a calmer, more relaxed way of life it could mean building relationships with those friends that meditate, practise yoga or just exude peace and relaxation.

 

4.Take bigger risks.

 

The chances are you hit rock bottom because you played it safe. So get back on the horse but take bigger risks and get out of your comfort zone. It is all about mindset, because if you change your mind, you can change your life.

 

  1. Keep Developing

 

Turn off your TV, read books, go to classes and workshops. Learn as much as you can and share the energy with other learners.

 

So for those who feel like they have hit rock bottom I want to highlight what an amazing point you are at in your life.

 

Because change is easiest when you have nothing to lose.

 

Change your mindset, take bigger risks (it can’t get worse than where you are at now, right?) and create your dream life.

 

With a big enough why, you really can overcome any how!

 

Amanda C wattsAmanda C Watts is a success coach who works with clients to help them create the life or business of their dreams. She lives her dream life every day, and successfully manages being a school run mum with a highly profitable business. She loves nothing more than spending quality time with those she is with, whether it is clients, family or friends:  “My philosophy is the more you give in life the richer you will be – emotionally as well as financially. Anything is possible when you stop looking inwards and start looking to make a difference.”

 

www.awakenyourmagic.com

 

 

Ceri Wheeldon

Ceri is Founder and Editor of Fabafterfifty.co.uk She is a frequent speaker at events and in the media on topics related to women over 50 , including style and living agelessly. With 20+ years experience as a headhunter Ceri also now helps support those looking to extend their working lives.

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