How to cope with Valentines’s Day if your partner is depressed.
Fabafterfifty: Couples
Issues arising in long term relationships discussed
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Article by by Caroline Carr Maybe Valentine’s Day isn’t for you. Perhaps you aren’t bothered about hearts and flowers and wine and chocolates, and romantic trips abroad and luxurious silk lingerie, and soppy messages in cards. Or maybe you love all that. Traditionally it’s a day for two people to express and celebrate their love - or at the very least to exchange tokens of affection. If you’re single, you probably feel fed up because everyone around you seems to get a card. And if your partner is no longer alive, Valentine’s Day may be a time of sadness, but also of many loving memories. Valentine’s Day can be a poignant reminder that your relationship has changed But when your partner is depressed, Valentine’s Day can be a poignant reminder that your relationship has changed. The fun, the...
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How can you tell if your partner is depressed?
Article by Caroline Carr If your partner is depressed, there might be a dramatic shift in their behaviour, especially if the depression comes on suddenly. But so often, depression can creep up – over years in many cases, and quite often, you may have absolutely no idea that your partner is depressed. If you and your partner have been together for some time, you may well overlook any changes in mood or behaviour, because you’ll have got used to each other. So you probably go along with and normalise these, or make excuses for them. You might not even notice any changes to start with, because often these can be very subtle. If you are in a relatively new relationship, you might think that any mood changes or unexpected behaviour is just a part of your partner’s personality....
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27% of Divorcing Couples Give ‘Falling Out of Love’ as Reason. Tips to Keep Love Alive Midlife
Guest article by Dr Gian Gonzaga 27% of divorcing couples cited ‘falling out of love’ as the main reason for getting a divorce. With more divorces of the over 50s being instigated by the wives than the husbands- what can the over 50s do to keep romance and love alive midlife. As children leave home, changing the dynamics of home life, becoming an emptynester can place a strain on some marriages. Dr Gian Gonzaga, Director of Research at relationship site eHarmony.co.uk gives his perspective on the subject and advises on how to make sure you keep hold of that loving feeling: Tips to keep love alive midlife Here are Dr Gian Gonzaga’s tips for staying in love midlife; 1.Celebrating your achievements together is vital to a strong and healthy relationship – it creates emotional security, so celebrate together...
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How Bridget Jones ‘Wobbly Bits’ can Help You Prepare for a New Relationship
Article by Jackie Walker After 7 years working in the field of relationships, starting with separation and divorce and now helping people navigate their relationship doldrums, rough seas or even to kick start a new relationship without fear or shame, I have created an e-programme. I’ve taken what I love most about the trainings I’ve done, the daily work I do, and translated it into everyday stories, practices and exercises. My intention is to provide a great value product for you so that you can learn how to navigate your relationships – with yourself, your partner, family, friends and in business. It means that this programme is a good fit with you whether you’re in a relationship or not! The basic starting point of any relationship is you. You simply can’t have a relationship without you in it, can...
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How to cope if you’re over 50 and your relationship with your husband is ‘boring’
Article by Keren Smedley The divorce rate is increasing for the 50’s and 60s and it’s the women who are instigating divorce proceedings. Many say that their husbands are boring, they never talk, they watch a lot of TV and fall asleep with the control in their hands! Often couples can rub along OK whilst they’re working and busy but the thought of retirement together fills them with horror. Many women with this thought in mind file for divorce whilst they’re still working and have time to arrange their retirement finances. Many have put up passively with being bored and somewhat dissatisfied with their life. They discuss it with their friends but not their husbands. If that’s the case, they undoubtedly contribute to the problem. It’s easy to become absorbed in our job, day and night. Is it...
