Article by Cat Williams
An ‘interfering mother-in-law’ is one of society’s favourite stereotypes. The term ‘mother-in-law’ sounds negative and criticising even before anything is known about the individual themselves.
Mothers and daughters-in-law often find it particularly difficult to get along. What is the secret of those who can overcome the stereotype, and build a friendship with their ‘DIL’?
“fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
The first thing we need to recognise is that we pose a uniquely powerful threat to the self-esteem of our daughter-in-law. As an older woman we could potentially pass judgement on her as a woman, a wife, and a mother, because we might feel that we have ‘been there, done that’, and feel that we either ‘got it right’ or can advise...