Last night, I received a phone call from a friend. It was the day before her 50th birthday, and even though she is generally a happy positive person, it was still quite traumatic for her. She wasn’t coping and asked how I had come to terms with my own 50th birthday.
My friend is happily married, has a successful career and an active social life. Her only sadness up to this point has been the fact she was unable to have children. Her concern was NOT about vanity or looking older. What she was finding difficult was the speed at which her life seemed to passing. What she did not want to happen is to go into this first night of the 51st year, and second half of her life full of worries, regrets and a sense of loss ; she wanted something better than that for herself, a celebration to help with this pivotal moment, and a way of looking forward to celebrate the coming decades.
So, instead of going through some morbid kind of “death rite” thinking about the things she might not do again- such as backpacking though Europe and dancing the night way to the sounds of Spandau Ballet , we just talked about what she had done in the previous 5 years.
What had happened during those years?
Well quite a lot, actually. My friend had met the man she is now married to. She has run her first half marathon. She has renovated a house, and walked across the Sydney Harbour Bridge, she has also set up a business and that’s just for starters!.
So what might her 50s possibly hold in the way of new surprises and possibilities?!
But one thing we do know is that will be a decade of new experiences and new challenges, and triumphs and moments to celebrate.
And it deserves to be stepped into proudly, and positively, and in full appreciation and anticipation of what will come.
It was decided to ring in the moment with a glass of champagne and a toast to being fab after fifty!
This morning her post arrived, complete with 50th birthday cards with massive number 50s written on them, she has received countless texts, and bouquets of flowers. She called to say “This is going to be a fabulous decade….”
Happy 50th birthday!