How do you choose an outfit for your own wedding in your 50s? Susan voluteered to share her experience – and pictures- in the hope that it would inspire others. She looked stunning on her wedding day.
Was this your first wedding?
This was my second wedding and my husband’s first. We’ve been together nearly 16 years, but we like to take our time over important decisions!
How far ahead did you start planning he wedding (and outfit!)
Seven weeks! We are currently on an overseas assignment in the Middle East with my husband’s employment and because of visa requirements and local laws, we decided to go for it. Once the decision was made we discovered the most straightforward way by far was to get married here rather than in the UK. So it then became a race against time with the rapidly increasing temperatures at this time of year. We decided to get married just with two good friends as our witnesses and plan a family event back home later in the year. We told immediate family the week before and kept it secret from everyone else. It was very intimate and romantic and everyone has been fantastic about it. I have to say there were many advantages to planning at speed and having no time to dither!
Did you have any idea what you would like to wear on the day at the beginning?
Not at all. I went through a process of thinking through my options and following my instincts. The most important thing to me was to wear something I felt confident in rather than fit into a stereotype. How did you start planning your outfit? I knew it was highly unlikely I’d find something off the shelf in such a short space of time and I didn’t want to buy something I wasn’t 100% about. So I started to think about what type of style I already knew suited me and then looked into having something made.
Where did you get your ideas from?
I took ideas from items of clothing I already have and like. What concerned you the most? I didn’t want to be a 52 year old bride trying to look 25!
Did anyone help you?
No, not with the original idea or design. I just turned up at the dressmakers with a sketch I’d done on a piece of scrap paper! How did you make your final choice? The final choice was pretty much the original concept in style, with a bit of encouragement on colour. I had an idea of the fabric I wanted. As I am very fair skinned, pale colours would not have enhanced my complexion and bold colours would have made it more like an evening dress. I was given the confidence to choose white and the dressmaker sourced the fabric I had in mind.
Where did you buy your dress/ have it made?
It was made locally by a tailoring company which I’d never used but had a good reputation.
Did you keep the dress secret from your husband to be?
Yes, he had no idea what I was planning to wear.
What was his reaction to the dress on the day?
My intention was for him to see me for the first time coming down the stairs. On the day, our witnesses were unexpectedly delayed arriving at the house, so eventually I had to ask him to come upstairs and fasten the back for me. He’s not one to be gushy, but he just looked at me for a few seconds, smiled and then told me I looked absolutely fantastic. Then we had to leave!!
What do you plan to do with the dress now?
As we plan to have a repeat performance of some kind in the UK with family and friends, my intention is to wear it again. Lucky me – how many brides get to do that! So at the moment, it’s waiting to go back to the dressmaker to be pressed and kept in acid free paper until I need it again. In the longer term, there is also be the potential to have it dyed and wear as an evening dress, but I’m not ready to do that yet.
Many thanks to Susan for sharing part of her special day with Fabafterfifty