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Why pre-nups enable openness and transparency to flourish

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By Peter Jones, founder of Jones Myers family law specialist The increasing popularity of pre-nup agreements reflects how couples view their open and transparent nature as a positive factor when planning their wedding. Far from castigating the agreements as clinical and unromantic, more couples are showing that while seeking to protect inherited or family money, they also want to do ‘the right thing’ by each other – and by any children. In our vast experience, too many people marry without proper discussions about important issues such as families and careers and entering into a pre-nup promotes healthy dialogue. Also, a high percentage of couples who marry are older and have more income and capital. The disclosure aspect means that both are committed to openness. Pre-nups have grown in popularity and influence since a 2010 Supreme Court ruling recommended that, although...
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A Celebration of a Very Special Life

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Article by Gina Kirkham “… oh, and I don’t want soggy butties and people weeping and wailing at my funeral. I want a party, a damned good knees up, is that a deal?” Sheila Jane Radestock January 2006 (My Mum) I’ve lost track over the years as to how many times the phrase ‘I don’t want soggy butties’ whispers through my mind. Normally it springs to the fore at some poor unfortunate’s traditional funeral where the sandwiches alternate between being squashed and soggy or stale and curled up at the edges…..…and that then makes me wonder how others viewed my Mum’s funeral, or Celebration of Life as we preferred to call it. Is it ever truly possible, or even normal, to say you had a wonderful time...
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The Importance of International Bereaved Mother’s Day

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Article by Alexis Marie Chute You have probably noticed the Mother’s Day advertisements plastered on every available sign and windowfront for the last month. Marketers won’t let you forget about celebrating your mom, your grandma, and the mother of your children, particularly if that’s you! However, these ads can provoke a painful reaction in some women and couples, which is one important reason why International Bereaved Mother’s Day is so important. This celebration is typically not covered much in mainstream media, but is critical for the multitude of people that are grieving for a child. International Bereaved Mother’s Day was started by Carly Marie Dudly in Australia and has been embraced by people around the world. This year, the remembrance day takes place on May 7,...
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After the Death of his Mum: How I have tried to help my husband get through his grief

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Article by Juliet Young When my mother-in-law fell seriously ill last summer it came as such a shock to our whole family that we had no idea how to react. Why her? She was surely the healthiest of us all. Only seventy-two years old and fighting fit. After early retirement she had started to run regularly and had completed several 10km races, coming in at just over an hour. Pretty damn good for her age! She ate well, hardly drank any alcohol, always carefully looking after her body and her skin. She was a slim, beautiful Jackie Kennedy lookalike and a real inspiration for the younger women in our family. I knew her for almost thirty years and never once saw her...
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Are dating apps the way to find love over 50

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Article by Olga Levancuka Yes, believe it or not, apps may be way forward to finding love over 50. Why waste your time by going to the events or pay hefty fees by registering on online dating sites when your dream partner is literally a finger tap away, and often for free. Or is it so? On the first glimpse dating via apps is exciting, direct and provides you with that feeling of spontaneity and living dangerously. On a second glimpse, it is just like every other way of dating, face-to-face, blind date, arranged date, online date or by meeting a person at an event. So before you can jump to conclusions saying ‘it’s all about apps‘ it’s not. It’s all about putting yourself out there. It’s about stating that you are...
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Dating over 50: Answers to some FAQs

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Dating over 50 can be daunting, here we answer just a few of the questions frequently asked What should I wear on a first date? You want to wear something that helps your confidence shine through. Wear the colours that are most flattering to your skin tone. Remember that it is your top half that is mostly on show if you are sitting across a dinner table, so focus on that. Don’t wear anything that you are uncomfortable wearing – the last thing you want on a date is to be fiddling with what you are wearing. Don’t overdress. Wear what reflects your personality. What does the choice of first date say about the person who chose it? When it comes to first dates it depends on whether the ‘date’ is with someone you already know...
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Five factors that facilitate a good marriage AND a “good” divorce

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By Peter Jones, founder of Jones Myers family law specialist A good marriage and a “good divorce” might sound like extreme opposites – however both can hinge on critical common factors which can pave the way for a civilised split. Here are five areas that coincide in a good marriage and a “good” divorce. 1 Put your children first The needs and sensitivities of children should be at the heart of a good marriage and the focus of a break up. Avoid arguing or criticising each other in front of them and reassure them that they are loved by both parents. Most importantly, if you are separating, reassure your children over and over again that it is not their fault. 2 Communicate effectively Communicating openly, honestly and frequently are the foundations of a...
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This Miraculous Marriage: How we have stayed together for almost thirty years.

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Article by Juliet Young When I say miraculous I am not talking about meeting a knight in shining armour who swept me off my pretty little feet, then rode us across the Channel on his faithful dappled steed without getting its hooves or our toes wet, turning water to wine every night for dinner, thereafter happily living a life of smiles and hugs and lurve. What I really mean is that it’s something of a miracle that, after almost thirty years together, we are still here, still a Mr and Mrs Same Name, still definitely a couple. A couple of very different, hard-headed personalities who have amazingly stuck it out for the long haul. So far in any case. I’m sure this must be a modern-day miracle because, Holy McZoly, it hasn’t always...
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Midlife relationships: Is your relationship ’til death us do part?

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Article by Maxine Harley If you’re still in love with your childhood sweetheart then long may that continue. Sadly too many of us have not had that blessed experience. There are many types of relationships – and by the time we’ve reached our 50s we’ve probably either heard about, or experienced some of them ourselves. After chatting to a couple of female friends recently it got me thinking about how relationships feature in and shape our later lives. What emotions does the word ‘relationship’ bring up in you? Safety, security, comfort and support? Stress, hostility, fear, pain and sacrifice? Your relationships are about YOU The relationships we attract are a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves. We attract what we give out. What we give out changes as we change. We get what we sub-consciously believe we deserve, and then we get...
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A six-step plan for a ‘New Year, New You’ post-divorce

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By Peter Jones, founder of Jones Myers family law specialists. The New Year is a symbolic time for most people – one of new beginnings, hopes and aspirations for the future. Understandably, the holiday period may have left those recently divorced feeling fragile and exhausted – making it more difficult to plan ahead with any degree of enthusiasm or certainty. If you are in this situation, looking after your physical and mental wellbeing is vital to help you feel re-energised and refocused. There has never been a better time to set in place some simple resolutions to boost your quality of life – and help you to move forward with confidence and purpose. Eat well: A healthy diet provides the nutrients needed for energy, healthy metabolic rate and a robust immune...
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Why pre-nups enable openness and transparency to flourish

A Celebration of a Very Special Life

The Importance of International Bereaved Mother’s Day

After the Death of his Mum: How I have tried to help my husband get through his grief

Are dating apps the way to find love over 50

Dating over 50: Answers to some FAQs

Five factors that facilitate a good marriage AND a “good” divorce

This Miraculous Marriage: How we have stayed together for almost thirty years.

Midlife relationships: Is your relationship ’til death us do part?

A six-step plan for a ‘New Year, New You’ post-divorce

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