Article by Fab after Fifty
Navigating the world of online dating can be daunting. Apparently nearly half of new relationships for the over 50s start online..but where do you begin?
Creating your online dating profile.
It might be tempting to use that fabulously flattering photo taken of you on holiday 10 years ago, but if you no longer look like that you are only setting up yourself and any prospective date for disappointment. To date successfully online you really do need to create a profile that is as an accurate reflection of the real you as possible!
If you meet somebody in person that you have connected with online, then you do not want your first impression to be one of disappointment.
So with that in mind, here are our tip 10 tips to create your profile.
10 Tips to Create your Online Dating Profile
- Photos. Choose at least 3 recent photos. Your main photo should be a headshot where you are smiling – and not wearing sunglasses- the eyes are supposed to be the window to your soul, so let people see them. Remember that when looking at profiles online you are confronted by a sea of faces. You want yours to stand out. Don’t let it be bland- add some colour. Let the other 2 photos (or more) reflect your personality and interests. If you say that you have an interest in a sporting activity include a photo of you participating in that activity. Dont be tempted to use a pic of you and your ex with a blue dot carefully positioned over their face…suggests your only good times were with your ex whom you are not yet over!
- Age. Why lie? If you want to meet somebody with a view to a long term relationship then it is best to be honest from the start.
- Height. This is definitely something quite a few men are guilty of – adding inches to their height. Again if you portray yourself as 5ft 11ins and you are only 5ft 6ins again you are setting expectations, which on meeting will leave your date feeling disappointed.
- Weight/build . Slim, average, heavy? Be honest. As superficial as it may seem you want to describe yourself as accurately as possible
- Interests. Again be honest, if you say you are keen runner when you haven’t actually been on a run since running cross country at school , and would much rather spend your evenings curled up with a good book, then say so. Don’t list so many interests with so much enthusiasm that anybody reading your profile will assume you will never actually have time to meet or spend time with them moving forward.
- Smoker or non smoker. Again be honest. If you are a non-smoker and really cannot bare to be around somebody who does smoke be clear in your preferences. Again, if you are a smoker be honest.
- Children. If you have children living at home be open about that. You need to be sure that anybody you meet is happy to get involved with somebody who has other responsibilities.
- Your job. Your dating profile is not a CV for employment so share the basics, and your enthusiasm for what you do, but you don’t need to offer a full job description.
- Your username. Think of a username that reflects your personality. Don’t use your full actual name that will make it easy for anyone to track you down online. You need to remain fairly anonymous to those that you have no interest in communicating with or meeting, but at the same time choose a name that somebody will want to click on to find out more. For example , if dance is your passion a username such as DancingQueen is far more descriptive than Karen 123. Use your imagination. Think of it as a twitter name for dating!
- Overall make your profile authentic- make it a reflection of your own personality.
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